OFFICE-POLITICS REPLY BY FRANKE JAMES

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Dear Change in Power,
You’ve written in to Office-Politics to express your disgust about a change in power that threatens your satisfaction with your job. Sometimes the problems that come our way are opportunities for growth. Let me tell you the messages I’m getting from your letter, and then offer you some advice.

1. You’re undervaluing yourself
Read your sentence over again, “I have built a highly visible community program with little or no help from my organization.” That is a significant achievement that has value in the marketplace. Do you know how hard companies are working these days to build communities — both in the real world and online? You should research what other jobs are out there, and what people with your skills are getting paid. Do not do this in a haphazard way. Make a project of it. Do research. Read books. Consult with HR firms. Be thorough. If you really have built a ‘highly visible community program with little or no help from an organization’, then you have a great skill set. This may be your opportunity to move to a much better position.

2. Your coworker is good at networking. You have to get better!
Your coworker has the advantage over you on this. She is schmoozing the Boss’s wife socially to get ahead. This is a powerful play. Is it unethical for her to be friends with your Boss’ wife? No. Your coworker may (and this could be hard to believe) genuinely enjoy the company of your Boss and his wife. Whatever the true basis of their friendship should be of no concern to you. You can’t regulate who makes friends with whom. But as you’ve noted, it threatens your position. ‘Whom you know’ can be more powerful than ‘what you know’. It’s not nice. It’s not fair. But it’s office politics.

3. Is being friendly with the Boss, ‘kissing ass’?
Read your sentence again, “I don’t want to kiss ass to succeed.” That statement carries a lot of contempt. You’re saying that being friendly with the Boss is false. If I was your Boss, I’d be insulted. Your Boss is a human being. Is it really ‘kissing ass’ to be nice to him and his wife? Business is not just work. Business is about human relationships. All of us like to do business with people we like and trust. That often results in friendships outside of work. You should look for opportunities to connect outside of work with coworkers.

4. Should you speak up?
Returning now to your big question, “Should I just accept the fact that I may have to work for her, and keep my mouth shut, or let her know, and my boss, how I feel?” Your coworker is more skilled than you at playing the office politics game. Revealing your true feelings about the coworker is unlikely to achieve anything other than stirring up bad feelings.

My advice to you is to do two things:
1. Research other job opportunities and understand your market value
2. Apply for the job of Supervisor yourself. Be ready to blow your own horn about your achievements. Think from his perspective. What are your assets? Why are you the better person to be the Supervisor? Be armed with the research stats to show your Boss the value that you have in the marketplace, and a well-organized written list of your strengths and achievements.
Thanks for writing to Office-Politics. Let me know if this helps!

dear you..douchebag!

I don't know what your problem is, but I'll bet it's hard to pronounce.

How about never? Is never good for you?

I see you've set aside this special time to humiliate yourself in public.

I'm really easy to get along with once you people learn to see it my way.

I'm out of my mind, but feel free to leave a message.

I don't work here. I'm a consultant.

It sounds like English, but I can't understand a word you're saying.

I like you. You remind me of myself when I was young and stupid.

You are validating my inherent mistrust of strangers.

I have plenty of talent and vision; I just don't give a sh+!.

I'm already visualizing the duct tape over your mouth.

I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you.

Thank you. We're all refreshed and challenged by your unique point of view.

The fact that no one understands you doesn't mean you're an artist.

Any resemblance between your reality and mine are purely coincidental.

What am I? Flypaper for freaks?!

I'm not being rude. You're just insignificant.

It's a thankless job, but I've got a lot of Karma to burn off.

And your cry-baby whiny-arsed opinion would be?

Do I look like a people person to you?

This isn't an office. It's Hell with fluorescent lighting.

I started out with nothing and I still have most of it left.

Sarcasm is just one more service we offer.

If I throw a stick, will you leave?

Errors have been made. Others will be blamed.

Whatever kind of look you were aiming for, you missed.

Oh I get it. Like humour, but different.........

An office is just a mental institute without the padded walls.

Can I swap this job for what's behind door..........1?

Too many freaks, not enough circuses.

Nice perfume (or aftershave). Must you marinate in it?

Chaos, panic, and disorder. My work here is done.

How do I set a laser printer to stun?

I thought I wanted a career; it turns out I just needed the money.

I'll try being nicer if you'll try being more intelligent.

Wait a minute - I'm trying to imagine you with a personality.

Aren't you a black hole of need.

I'd like to help you out, which way did you come in?

Did you eat an extra bowl of stupid this morning?

Why don't you slip into something more comfortable? Like a coma.

If you have something to say raise your hand... then place it over your mouth.

I'm too busy, can I ignore you some other time?

Don't let your mind wander, it's too small to be let out on its own.

Have a nice day, somewhere else.

You're not yourself today, I noticed the improvement straight away.

Do you hear that? That's the sound of no-one caring.

If I had a dog that looked like you, I'd shave it's butt and teach it to walk backwards.

Do you take Karate? I was wondering because you are kicking.

Is that your head or did your neck vomit?

You're so nasty, I called you on the phone and got an ear infection.

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Thanx to Kak Shima..for the hair coloring

I met this invention with a series of questions.

Why am I not even bother to change my hair style?

Did I not care about how my hair looks?

Am I afraid to look weird?

I decided that most of my mistake not to try something new, I am hesitant to change the cut that I have for something that might not look good. Indeed, it seemed too stupid to be taken seriously because I am above the floppy hair is still there, but glad to try a new haircut for once.

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This girl is fed up. Love is blind and her eyes are finally open. She sees the man she loves finally for who he really is. She gave him everything. She believed in him. She risked it all for him. She gave him her heart and soul. She believed he was the one for her, her other half. But, he hurt her. Rejected her love. He didn't appreciate her, walked all over her, and probably thought he could do better. I don't see it as they were in a relationship. I think he strung her along and played with her like a toy. He enjoyed the game. He enjoyed the control he had over her. He finally went to far and she is done. But, he left her with scars. Reminders of him. She was very much in love with him. She knows they could have had it all. It causes her pain to the point of not being able to breathe. But the tide is turning, she's not sad anymore, she's becoming angry. "There is a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch, bringing me out of the dark." Her anger is allowing her to open up her eyes and see the reality of the relationship. Now, she wants revenge. She wants him to suffer like he made her suffer. He broke her heart. But she knows that in the end he didn't just break her heart, he broke his heart too. She knows that he will see her and see that they could have had it all after she leaves. And, she won't take him back this time even though she can't help feeling like they could of had it all. It doesn't matter now. This girl is going to make this guy miserable. He underestimated her worth and what he had in her. He underestimated how much she loved him and how happy they could have been. She is going to show him what he missed out on one way or another. She isn't going to disappear and be sad. She's going out. She's going to see other people. She's going to fall in love. And, she's going to makes sure he sees it all. He is going to miss her so much that he will wish he never met her and this will make her happy because of all the pain he has caused her. It's his turn to hurt. He's going to cry over her. Tears are going to fall. She's going to miss him. But she is hardening her heart to him. She won't let him back in again even though she will want to. They were meant to be together. And now they never will be. It's kind of vindictive. He must of really hurt her.

My brain is SICK & TIRED

I'm sick and tired of always being sick and tired..I'm sick and tired and I'm ready to roll..Before I die I'm taking over control..hold on GIRL!

I NEED A DOCTOR
I'm about to lose my mind
You've been gone for so long
I'm running out of time
I need a doctor
Call me a doctor
I need a doctor, doctor
To bring me back to life

[Verse]Eminem
I told the World one day I would pay it back
Say it on tape, and lay, record it
So that one day I could play it back
But I don't even know if I believe it when I'm saying that
Doubt start to creep in, everyday it's so grey and black
Hope I just need a ray of that
Cause no one sees my vision when I play it for em
They just say it's wack
They don't know what dope is
And I don't know if I was awake or asleep
When I wrote this
All I know is you come to when I was at my lowest
You picked me up, breathing life in me
I owe my life to you
But for the life of me, I don't see why you don't see like I do
But it just dawned on me you lost a son
See this light in you, it's dark
Let me turn on the lights and brighten me and enlighten you
I don't think you realize what you mean to
Not the slighest clue
Cause me and you were like a crew
I was like your sidekick
You gon either wanna fight me when I get off this fucking mic
Or you gon hug me
But I'm not an option, there's nothing else I can do cause...

[CHORUS] Skylar Grey
I'm about to lose my mind
You've been gone for so long
I'm running out of time
I need a doctor
Call me a doctor
I need a doctor, doctor,
To bring me back to life

[VERSE] Eminem
It hurts when I see you struggle
You come to me with ideas
You say there pieces so I'm puzzled
Cause the shit I hear is crazy
But your either getting lazy or you don't believe in you no more
Seems like your own opinions not one you can form
Can't make a decision you keep questioning yourself
Second guessing and it's almost like you're begging for my help
Like I'm your leader
You're supposed to be my fucking mentor
I can endure no more,
I demand you remember who you are
It was YOU, who believed in me
When everyone was telling you don't sign me
Everyone at the fucking label, let's tell the truth
You risked your career for me
I know it as well as you
Nobody wanted to fuck with a white boy
That's why I'm crying in this booth
You saved my life now maybe it's my time to save yours
But I can never repary you what you did for me is way more
But I ain't giving up faith
And you ain't giving up on me
Get up Dre, I'm dying, I need you, come back for fucks sake

[CHORUS] Skylar Grey
I'm about to lose my mind
You've been gone for so long
I'm running out of time
I need a doctor
Call me a doctor
I need a doctor, doctor
To bring me back to life
Bring me back to life
Bring me back to life

(I need a doctor doctor
To bring me back to life)

[VERSE] Dr. Dre
It literally feels like a lifetime ago
But I still remember this shit like it was yesterday though
You walked in, yellow jump suit
Whole room, cracked jokes
One you got inside the booth, told you, like smoke
Went through friends, some of them I put on
But they just left, they said they riding to the death
But where the fuck are they now
Now that I need them I don't see none of them
All I see is Slim
Fuck all you fair-weather friends
All I need is him
Fucking backstabbers
When the chips were down you just laughed at us
Now you bout to feel the wrath of aftermath, faggots
You gon see us in our lab jackets and ask us where the fuck we been?
You can kiss my indecisive ass crack maggots and the crackers ass
Little crack a jack beat making wack math
Backwards producers, I'm back bastards
One more CD and then I'm packing up my bags and as I'm leaving again
I'll guarantee they scream Dre don't leave us like that man cause...

[CHORUS]
I'm about to lose my mind
You've been gone for so long
I'm running out of time
I need a doctor
Call me a doctor
I need a doctor, doctor
To bring me back to life
Bring me back to life
Bring me back to life