Ada pelbagai rules dalam perhubungan yang biasa kita dengari. Biarkan lelaki memulakan langkah pertama dan membayar untuk first date. Tugas wanita setakat menawarkan diri untuk membayar, out of curtesy. Boleh dikatakan, ajak-ajak ayam sahaja. Jangan telefon si jejaka dahulu. Biarkan dia telefon kita. Jangan jawab kiriman SMS si dia dengan terlalu cepat. Biarkan si dia menunggu beberapa jam. Kitakan in demand!
Tetapi antara rules ini, rule yang PALING PENTING adalah, jangan sekali-kali biarkan isu jejaka menimbulkan masalah sesama girlfriends.
Misalnya, jika dua orang rakan rapat suka akan jejaka yang sama, usahlah bermasam muka dan berebut. Biarpun ratio lelaki kepada wanita 1:8, banyak lagi jejaka diluar sana. Berebut semata-mata seorang lelaki yang belum tentu membahagiakan diri kita sungguh tidak berbaloi. Apatah lagi apabila berebut sesama teman rapat sendiri. Tidak berbaloi kehilangan teman suka dan duka, teman bergosip dan shopping kerana seorang lelaki.
Jika ada salah faham dengan si dia, janganlah teman-teman turut sama dilibatkan. Masalah seperti ini biasanya wujud apabila mempunyai teman-teman yang sama dengan si dia. Apabila masalah timbul antara pasangan itu, habis satu geng terpaksa hadapi. Yang untung adalah mereka yang pandai asingkan soal hubungan istimewa dan soal rakan-rakan biasa.
Masa bersama teman biasa adalah masa yang dikhususkan untuk teman biasa, jangan pula diheret si dia bersama. Mungkin ada teman-teman yang tidak kisah, tetapi bear in mind, ada yang kurang selesa. Tambah lagi, jika asyik bermanja dengan si dia dihadapan rakan-rakan anda yang masih single. Ada yang perasan macam dia sorang yang berlaki. GELI tengok pun ada.
Paling penting, janganlah dahulukan si dia berbanding rakan-rakan. Ingatlah, cinta itu takkan kekal selamanya. Manusia zaman sekarang mudah sahaja melafazkan ayat cinta. Apabila jumpa yang lebih baik, mudah sahaja dilupakan yang sedia ada. Kata lidah tak bertulang. Ketika inilah, girlfriends anda yang setia menemani, hinggakan hati terluka itu terubat kembali.
I LOVE MY GIRLFRIENDS!!I love my girlfriends. (no offense to my wonderful guy friends but this post is not for you. check back later) as I was saying…ah yes…I love my girlfriends. Why? Because they accept me for who I am. Just the way I am. And they actually appreciate it. These people believe in me sometimes more than I believe in myself. Now that’s just crazy! It’s a novel idea, I know, but this is what makes good people, great friends. We know each other pretty well and that just doesn’t happen overnight. Forming and nurturing a strong bond with someone, male or female, is an invaluable component of life. You know the saying, when you find true love, hold on to it. Writing off half the population is not conducive to this. If someone can predict what you are going to say or do in a given situation and it is spot on, that is love. If someone can point out you’re behaving like a raving lunatic and you need to check yourself and you accept their advice and follow it. That. Is. Love. If someone can tell you their opposing view or opinion on your personal situation and you consider it as an option, that is true love.
My girlfriends and I are as thick as thieves and may seem the same on the surface, but we are ferociously different. Extremely different. In our circle our virtues are valued but we can agree we all have our vices. We can never negatively pinpoint anyone as “that one friend.” In that case, we are all “that one friend.” (whatever that means).
Ladies, do you value girlfriends? Why do some women dislike other women? Are we that much different with our friends than men are with theirs?
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